“I Have Given You An Example” 

Sacrament Meeting Talk 8/24/14

When I was in high school I had this really good friend named Matt. You could even say that we had been best friends. After a while we began to drift away from each other because of our separate interests. Matt eventually fell away from the church and that was pretty much the end of our relationship. I was hurt and didn’t know how to act around him any more. I invited him to a few young single adult activities, which he did not attend, and that was it. One time Matt’s mother told me that he was disappointed in me, and felt like I only wanted to be friends with him if he was an active member of the church. That pierced my heart, but honestly, by my actions it was true.

If this situation has happened to my husband, Joe (which it has), he wouldn’t have even thought twice about their decision affecting his friendship with them. He would have treated them completely normally like nothing had happened.

I am so grateful I married Joe and for his great example to me. If this situation with Matt happened today I would act very differently.

Elder Richard G Scott gave a talk in this last conference entitled “I have given you an example” (with quotes!). Usually titles are not in quotes, so I figured it came from a scripture, and I was right.  The verse is in John 13 and reads, “For I have given you an example, that ye should do as I have done to you.”

Looking at this scripture in context Jesus had just washed his disciples feet. He also alluded to the fact that someone would betray him.

Now let’s think about that for a minute. Jesus knew that Judas Iscariot was going to betray him, eventually causing his death, and yet Jesus still washed Judas’ feet, just like everyone else’s.

Although Jesus had not yet performed the atonement, one spiritual gift is the gift of discernment, or the gift to see within people’s hearts. I am pretty sure Christ had this gift, allowing Him to discern why Judas did what he did. When you know why someone acts the way they do, you can’t hate them. In fact, it is much easier to love them, even if you disagree with their actions.

The example that Jesus gave that Elder Scott references is love.  Pure Christ-like love, or charity. To me charity means having a love for people that leads us to help them without expectation of repayment.

I think the reason Jesus gave us examples of how to live and act and think and then told us to follow his examples, is that a lot of his teachings and examples do not come naturally to us.

What did he teach?

Selflessness, Humility, Forgiveness, Faith, and Charity

I a lot of instances our natural reactions are selfish, prideful, unforgiving, doubting, and hateful or apathetic.

I will venture to say that all of the attributes Christ exhibited are motivated by love.

One of Jesus’ teachings is “Love your enemies, bless them that curse you, do good to them that hate you, and pray for them which despitefully use you, and persecute you.” (Matt 5:44)

Jesus Christ didn’t just preach about loving people. He practiced what he preached.

And we have examples, not only from the scriptures, but all around us in our personal lives.

I remember when I was a first level in Girl’s Camp we had an activity where the leaders washed our feet, like the Savior washed his disciple’s feet. For whatever reason they forgot me. My feet were the only ones unwashed. I was a little shy and embarrassed about the whole situation so I didn’t say anything. I was disappointed and felt left out, even though I knew it wasn’t deliberate. Even though this is a sad story it taught me a great lesson. I have been able to pray and know that God loves me and He will never forget me. Because I have felt God’s love for me consistently throughout my life I trust Him. I have called on God for help in the past and He has always answered my prayers. Sometimes not in the way I wanted or anticipated, but always for the best.

In Proverbs it tells us to “Trust in the Lord with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding.”

God taught me a very important lesson several years ago through a series of three or four experiences I had. I’ll share two of the experiences I had.

In this first experience I lived in the bay area and my sister, Autumn, was coming in to the SF airport. I needed to pick her up, and because I was still a relatively new driver that freaked me out a little. Plus I had never driven there before, so that freaked me out too. And lastly, the car’s turn signal lights I was driving sometimes worked and sometimes didn’t work, so that freaked me out too!  As I started driving in bumper to bumper traffic the turn signals were not working. I prayed to Heavenly Father and said, “I need you to make these turn signals to work NOW! They are vital for this heavy of traffic. Please help me.” To illustrate my trust in Him I flipped on the turn signal, and he answered my prayer by making it work. The story doesn’t end here though, the turn signal worked up until the moment I picked up my sister, and then, after I felt emotionally strong with her in the car with me, it stopped working all the way home.

My next story is when I was a laurel in young womens. I was in charge of new beginnings, but I was incredibly sick. I was diagnosed with Crohn’s disease in high school and struggled with my health a lot at that time. On the night of the meeting people help set up while I was in another room throwing up. I couldn’t stop. About 5 minutes before the meeting started, of which I was conducting, my father gave me a priesthood blessing telling me that I would be okay. After the blessing I threw up one more time in the trash can beside me, walked up and conducted the meeting. I felt great! This isn’t the end of the story either. Later that night I got sick again, resulting in an Emergency Room visit.

After pondering and praying about these experiences the lesson was clear. Heavenly Father was saying, “I’m here for you. I love you. I will help you in your time of need, but when your time of need is over, your trial will continue.” And that’s okay.

I have felt God’s love for me and Joe so much through our marriage, even when I feel we don’t deserve it.  I know that when I trust in the Lord with all my heart and lean not unto my own understanding I get the help that I need, and often the help I want too.

I have felt God’s love for me. I know that I am important to him. He loves me a lot! Knowing that He loves each of you as much as He loves me humbles me, and makes me love you more than I would on my own.

Here’s my last story for now:

When I was about 20 I became email buddies with one of the young women in my ward named Jessica. We would often write and share experiences we had with each other.

After a very hard and discouraging day at work I decided I needed to do something that cheered me up. I thought, “Hey, I’ll serve someone!” Although this was a selfish thought, I really did want to brighten someone else’s day. I got fresh flowers from the store and put them in a vase. I burned a CD and put Jessica’s name on the whole thing, then I doorbell ditched it.

She was also having a hard day and here is part of the email she sent me shortly after that.

I knelt at my bed and prayed. It was

the most strongest prayer I have ever prayed before. I asked the

Lord to help me and be with me. I asked him for comfort and his

love. Then a couple minutes later I came out of my room and was

going to join my family then there was a knock on my door. Out of

my dinning room window I saw someone running away. I was like

hmm this is wierd. Then I opened the door and there was a vase of

pink tullips and a cd case. I was like "Mom I think someone brought

you flowers." Then my sister was like "No, Jessica they are for you.

Look your name is right on it!" Then I looked and it was my name.

I took them to my room and I started to cry. It was not out of

sadness but it was just an overwhelming feeling that came over me.

I felt my heart lift up. I listen to the cd and there were beautiful

church songs on it!

   It totally changed my whole mood. I felt great! I felt closer to the

Lord than ever. I read my scriptures for A WHOLE HOUR WITHOUT

STOPPING ONCE! it was absolutely awesome. Before I went to bed I

prayed again, and thanked my Heavenly Father for comforting me.

I fell asleep fast and had a great night sleep. Whoever left those

flowers and cd for me, changed my whole outlook. I haven't had a

bad day since. I never had such a bad day in my life, then at the end

of the day when I turned to the Lord and prayed I was comforted.

I'm so thankful for that and I just had to share that with you :]

I share this story not to boast, but to illustrate how the Lord works through us. If we love the people around us and are in tune with the Spirit, miracles do happen.

I testify that God is real. He loves us, and when we really understand that, we can love others better and make a real difference in their lives.